Friday, 26 June 2015

Listen to me

I feel a bit down about something I've realised. Well, it's something I kind of realised before but now I've really noticed it.

If I express a strong opinion on something, for example feminism or vegetarianism, I get quite shouted down, and nearly always by men. Rarely young women like me, but men my age, ones I'm friends with. And I see them having similar conversations with other men, but in an entirely different tone, and this is what I'm upset about.

They have much more decent and thoughtful debates with each other. In a 'debate' with me I am constantly put down, told I am being unfair, or arrogant, simply for expressing my own opinion on something, usually in a facebook status! For example, the dog festival in China. I put as my status that I hoped people campaigning for it to stop were all vegetarians/vegans, because I don't see why humans should be allowed to pick and choose which animals it's OK to torture and kill and which ones it's barbaric to torture and kill. And don't give me that 'we need meat to surviiiive' 'cos it's BS. I was basically saying can people just admit to themselves that they're OK with animals being killed and tortured for their enjoyment? Because that is why most people eat meat, because they enjoy the taste. Unless there is an illness that requires you to eat meat or you will die, if there is do let me know.

Immediately it was two guys, friends of mine, who jumped in telling me I was unfair and being arrogant about morals. I won't go into all the points of the arguments, they did have some valid points (and some very invalid ones such as 'we need meat to surviiiive') but it was the way in which they were talking to me that got me so upset. They very clearly didn't like that I was expressing such strong opinions, yet I know if I was boooyyyy (sorry) the tone of the conversation would have been very different.

Of course it isn't only guys giving me flak and being rude, but one difference I've noticed is they must always have the last say. Even if it is a silly comment such as 'kewl' or 'k bye'. And even if I am making valid points, I am still always going to be saying 'unfair' things in their eyes, because I'm challenging their beliefs. Do they not deem me important or intelligent enough to have a mature debate with?! Or is it their precious egos?

I guess I wrote this because despite how happy I am with my life and with myself at the moment, things like this are always getting me down. I just don't get it, it's like because I stand up for what I believe and have strong opinions they want to shut me up. Well... good luck getting me to do that!

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