Friday, 2 January 2015

Alternative New Years Goals

I say "goals" because I don't like the same resolutions people seem to make every year. You know the "New Year, new me" kind of resolutions that are set so high failure is inevitable. I just don't believe such a huge change is possible overnight. Which is why I am not setting the standards for 2015 too high. I realised I can't just snap my fingers and make everything OK (if only!) and that things will gradually change and get better, and that's what real life is like. So I have some resolutions of sorts to keep me going on this path.

1. Continue with the techniques for controlling and accepting anxiety, panic attacks and depression I learnt in counselling. It took me a while to start properly using them, I've been taught so many, but I'm figuring out which ones work for me and will continue to do so.

2. To carry on standing up for the things I believe in, even though I know anyone who stands up for anything will get shit from people who disagree and are unpleasant in the way they express themselves. Even though this triggers my anxiety, these issues are way more important than that nagging feeling in my stomach. 

3. An extension of above - continue on my mission to only treat others with kindness. Even if it is only something small, I want to do everything I can to live my life this way.

4. Be even more social with other bloggers! I have already got started on that, I have been chatting to so many lovely people on twitter, and I put effort into chatting with yous in the comments too, like properly replying, 'cos you guys write such great comments! Also, want to feature guest bloggers on my blog and feature on other blogs too.

5. Read more. I didn't read much in my first year but I've picked it up again and want to carry on and hopefully keep increasing how much I'm reading again. I have such a long list of books I want to read and am constantly looking for recommendations, if you have any please let me know!

6. Save money up for France. I was trying to save £30 a month since September, but it's just not always possible. I read a great article the other day about how money-saving tips are for people who already have enough money to save, and that those who really need to save, can't actually afford to. While I'm not in the worst situation I know that I can't always afford to save that much a month, and that's OK. But just to put away a little bit whenever I can.


  1. I absolutely love your list! I hate the ones when people are like "I must do x amount of x" or "I must reach x amount for whatever activity". Um, no. That is a good goal, but it is not a great resolution. I've scheduled my own post of resolutions to go live in nine hours (or so) if you wanna check it out later on :D

  2. Ah thank you :) yeh I don't like how much pressure they put on you, I like to setg more achievable and flexible goals, I wouldn't want to feel disappointed! I deffo will, thanks for letting me know :) xo

  3. Your list is fab. I think everyone could show more kindness to others and be mindful of their everyday behaviour. I think the world would be a happier place if everyone made just a teenie effort on those fronts. I agree that all the 'I want a million followers' etc is ridiculous. I live in France but before moving I had to save up so much money, so I sold loads of clothes I didn't want on ebay and depop which really helped!
    Happy new year!
    Sarah-Jane xo //

  4. I may have mentioned this, but have you tried audio books as a way to read more? I really want to read more this year and I just couldn't find the time to sit down. Now I listen to audio books whilst I do lab work and I get through a book or so in a week! I also get to enjoy my work day a lot more!

  5. Thank you love :) totally agree, it doesn't even take that much effort once you become more conscious of your behaviour, like I might have to take a few deep breaths but at least I do that haha! I've done that before and might do it again soon! xo

  6. I haven't yet no, but it seems a really good idea! Do you buy them through itunes? I'm so clueless with itunes haha, I've been stuck with the same music for years now!

  7. I use Audible, it's €7.99 a month (I think) and you get one credit to have any book, usually the books are quite expensive around €30 or more!