Tuesday, 4 November 2014

Why "All About That Bass" is not actually sending a good message to girls...

Most people have been complaining about the "skinny bitches" phrase, fair enough. It does then go on to say "no, I'm just playing. I know you think you're fat but I'm here to tell ya, every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top". So yeh that's an alright message. Moving on from the "is it also supporting skinny girls, or is it really bashing them?" argument that everyone is obsessed with... the tune is actually pretty catchy, and her voice is awesome but there is just one line, only one line(!) that really ruins the whole "whoop girl power! Fuck photoshop!" message that it's trying to send across.

"Boys like a little more booty to hold at night"

Yeh so? You got a big booty and you don't like it yourself, but you're gonna reassure yourself by saying it's OK cos "boys like a little more booty to hold at night". Shall I repeat it one more time to see if you get the message? So fucking what about what boys want?! Is that all us skinny and fat bitches are good for? For a guy to hold our booty at night? I like to think I'm more than that. I don't like to separate girls into skinny bitches and fat bitches. I don't like that this song is trying to make girls feel empowered no matter what size they are (despite the fact that it does separate skinny and fat, and doesn't use nice language to describe skinny girls - didn't notice I was made of silicone eh!) by saying that guys like it! Why do we need a guys approval hmm? Shouldn't we just approve of ourselves?

It makes me cringe so so much hearing this song 'cos that one lyric totally ruined it for me. While everyone else is feeling empowered by it I still want more, this is still not good enough. Women relying on men for compliments and to feel good about themselves is not a good message to send. When a song comes out making women feel good about their bodies without referring to a man's opinion once, I will be content.

amber x 

22 comments :

  1. Yeah I completely agree with you tbh. That line really encompasses the whole sort of message of the song... not ok x

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  2. I never saw the song as empowering but I didn't think about that boys like a little more booty part! I dont know why :s but I agree with it 100% We ain't living to please men (I dont hate guys but seriously)


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  3. I've never heard it but read a lot about it and I wholeheartedly agree!
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  4. I just kinda think the song sucks tbh. It's really not my style of music and I hate the general attitude of it. I think I'll stick with my rock music :)

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  5. There are a lot of opinions about it but i think a lot of people miss this line in particular.

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  6. It's only one line and it seems to get lost in all the opinions about 'skinny bitches' etc etc, but to me it's the bit that makes the song awful!

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  7. It really does! Such a sneaky little line...

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  8. I actually wrote a post about this song on my blog ( http://myappellative.blogspot.co.uk/2014/10/rant-2-that-bass.html ) but I didn't actually mention that line and I can't believe I missed it, I completely agree with you!

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  9. I'll have a read of it now, thanks :) yeh it's pretty subtle and I only picked up on it cos someone had actually taken the time to write all the lyrics out in a blog post and when I spotted it I was just like um no... haha xo

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  10. I completely 100% agree. The song is catchy and don't get me wrong it is progress, but there is still a long way to go. We need to be reminding girls they are beautiful without relating it to guys. Plus it contributes to the heteronormativity that is all to present in our society. I'm sure all those lesbians with body image issues are super relieved to know boys would still like them. /sarcasm.

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  11. I didn't even mention that like there is so much wrong with it that people aren't picking out. Crazee arguments going on about it and I was like meh, then I actually read the lyrics and listened to it and immediately picked up on that line! Couldn't believe no one else had! I didn't see a single person bring it up! xo

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  12. OMG this is so true.. I have never paid attention to the lyrics!!!
    Thank you! I'd never know if it wasn't for you!

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  13. I wouldn't have even known if it hadn't been for Louise, sprinkle of glitter, writing out the lyrics on her blog post about it! However, her post was praising the song...

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  14. PREACH GIRL

    I also find that line offensive because it encourages women to seek external validation from men (and it's heternormative). Why do we need approval from ANYONE regarding our bodies? Men or women?

    The song is really catchy and fun to sing. I just wish the lyrics didn't promote girl-on-girl hate and the need for male approval. It's not empowering. It just speaks to low self esteem. :/

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  15. It's really sad paid attention to that lyric but you are so right. It ruins it all; and I never found it that empowering (catchy, sure) but now it's clear there's nothing there but half-hearted gestures towards empowerment. xx

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  16. I can't say I've listened so closely before now but of course you're absolutely right. In an age when we're all working out arses off for equality and to empower women, this kind of subtle messaging is so damaging. That it's such a throwaway little line in the middle somehow makes it worse, like that kind of validation is so natural it's just automatic. Not cool.

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  17. Thank ya!

    Yes completely! So in that way its not even body positive for the curvy girls its trying to bring up :-/

    I know - I find myself singing the chorus and then stopping myself and putting a grumpy face on haha.

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  18. I never really listened to the song and wasn't sure what I thought, mostly yay a body posi song for big girls, but then I saw on Sprinkle of Glitter blog all the lyrics written out and my heart sank when I saw that line. There's a lot of this in the majority of music, I just happened to pick out this one, although when I have more time I'm gonna start analysing more songs/films for their feminist values.

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  19. Me neither, I only found out cos Louise poster the lyrics on her blog Sprinkle of Glitter! And my heart just plummeted when I read that line. Yes! Totally agree - its so fucking subtle, we hardly notice it, and we ingrain it into our own heads!

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  20. Yeeeeees, that is so problematic!! Very well said! I hate when people (boys) say "It's okay to have curves, some guys like that" - because my worth is totally dependent on boys finding me attractive..... Just no!

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  21. AMEN! I did a youtube video on this actually - it's SO true!

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